Are you [Keeping] Balanced?
First, let me start by confessing that this project is long overdue. It’s something that I’ve been thinking about for a while, but life, fear, the need to be perfect, and a host of other lame reasons has kept this space at the edge my consciousness. Periodically, the universe would send signs or messages reminding me that I have a lot more to offer the world, but I’d find some way to side-step the calling and give myself 99 reasons why, at that moment, the time wasn’t right.
Well, you can only ignore the signs, messages, etc. for so long, plus after losing my job, I figured, what do I really have to lose. So, here I am and here we go.
Welcome to Keeping Balanced. Earlier this year, my husband, Kris (who you will hear a lot about, and occasionally hear from), sent me an article, Work, Sleep, Family, Fitness, or Friends: Pick 3, lovingly called the “entrepreneur’s dilemma by Randi Zuckerberg.
The idea is, that at any given time, you’re only able to focus on three things: work, sleep, family, fitness or friends. As I read the article, I knew immediately, what my top three were. I texted Kris.
“Sleep, Work, Fitness. I’m Sorry.”
See, here’s the thing. “Balance” is something I struggle with. I’m the “go hard or go home” type of girl. With work, I dive head first, working obsessively until I realize I haven’t pee’ed for 12 hours. With running, I’ll take a few weeks of training off, then jump back in with 5 milers and two-a-days, instead of easing back into my regular workout routine. And sleep…..I mean, I love sleep. Not much else to say about that.
As I proceeded to have a pity party because family and friends were nowhere near a priority for me, I realized Randi was absolutely correct. Certainly, for entrepreneurs, it’s impossible to have enough energy to to meet the demands of building a business, while prioritizing family, friends, catching zzz’s and health. But, my guess was it wasn’t just a challenge that entrepreneurs faced. I saw it over-and-over again with members of Black Girls RUN!, friends and family. There are simply too many things to do, with not enough time. So, byeeeeeeee family and friends. You’ll understand, right?
As my pity party continued, I finally settled on the big question. Is there such a thing as work/life balance? Heck any type of balance really? And if so, how do I best achieve that for myself?
Thus, Keeping Balanced was born. Now, I’m not proclaiming to have this down to a science, and I’m certainly still on a quest to define (and constantly redefining), what “balance” really means in all aspects of my life. But more importantly, how can I help others find this for themselves. If the demands of the world aren’t going to change, how can we still live our best lives with the cards we’ve been dealt?
Mind blow, right?
Here’s what I do know. The answers won’t be easy, and it will take some trial and error. But no one ever said that that wouldn’t be the case.
With Keeping Balanced, my goal is to share my learnings, experiences, failures, and successes with authenticity (I may drop an F bomb here or there), transparency (I’ll probably talk about my poop), and a little bit of humor (okay, maybe a lot) to help you find the balance in your life, while introducing you to concepts, theories, studies, products and people to help you gain even more clarity and actively pursue your own journey to keeping balanced.
If this sounds like you’re type of party, I invite you to come along as we all walk the tightrope to keeping balanced.
Toni Carey is the founder of Keeping Balanced, a place where women can learn how to keep it all together, while living their best life possible. When she's not writing, you can find her running or practicing yoga in and around Washington, D.C.